Understanding five stages of grief, their role in healing
Losing someone or something dear is a personal experience that doesn't have a fixed timeline; everyone mourns differently.
In conjunction with Grief Awareness Month, Yasmin Khan, founder of The Sage Centre, and Dr Nabilah Burhanuddin, a lead clinical psychologist, discuss the five stages of grief, offering their understanding and insights into the healing process.
1. Denial: Membela diri saya
In the initial stages of grief, denial serves as a protective mechanism that safeguards your thoughts from the full intensity of your feelings.
Yasmin dan Nabilah berkata, dosa ini boleh membuat kehilangan terasa tidak nyata, seperti bila-bilanya hampir tak terjadi lagi.
2. Anger: PekUncit-pentingasa frustrationmu
Bongkak kemarahan sering berlaku selepas penolakan apa yang dipandang sebagai ketidakjujuran kehilangan. Anda mungkin merasa frustasi dengan diri sendiri, orang lain atau bahkan alam semesta.
"Anger is a completely understandable and rightful feeling when dealing with bereavement," they said.
3. Bargaining: The what-ifs
In the negotiation process, doubts and uncertainties often surface in the form of "what if" or "if only" thoughts.
Pihak berkeberatan mengesyorkan bahawa fasa ini melibatkan menganjurkan berbagai skenario lain di mana kerosakan itu boleh dihindari.
4. Melancholy: The Burden of Loss
"The absence of a loved one can be a heavy load to carry. Imagine situations or people from your past that bring you sorrow. It's essential to acknowledge these feelings and embrace them. Everyone experiences loss, regardless of background or circumstances. Loss can be a natural response to significant events, but also a tier that hinders daily functioning.
**Fuzzy thinking and Meditation**
Fuzzy thinking often prevents us from being productive. Meditation helps clear your thoughts and improves focus. Consider taking a few moments each day to just breathe and let go of thoughts that overwhelm you. Also, limiting your exposure to constant information stimuli is recommended.
**Guiding principles - Getting out of the haze**
Reach out to a support group for encouragement and community. Establishing routines that keep you active and engaged promotes mental well-being. Some other suggestions include using interpersonal therapy, and finding peace in activities that bring you joy. Indulge in humor, reminders of happy memories, or do something creative to calm your mind.
**Finding inner peace and Balance**
Living with the weight of loss can be a lonely experience but not everyone needs to go through this alone. It's always beneficial to have an understanding listener or a compassionate companion. Listen to their advice or their failed attempts might help find solutions to your challenges when people don't offer solution.
Just because you're going through loss, doesn't mean you're solo in the value or meaning it may hold. You're not alone; challenge what supposedly restricts your hope may not totally exist in reality."
Following the process of negotiation, a period of disappointment may ensue.
"At this point, an overwhelming feeling of sorrow and desolation arises as the reality of the loss becomes apparent," he said.
Accepting the pain: Embracing serenity amidst the turmoil.
Accepting the loss never means erasing its painful memory, it means living with it alongside you.
It is about learning to coexist with it, pursuing serenity, and paying tribute to your loss through acts that hold significance.
Loss can vary in experience and expression, each person's journey is a one-of-a-kind, influenced by individual circumstances.
The staff at the Pintar Centre advised people to stay calm and treat themselves gently during this challenging time.
Aid is always available and no one has to face hardship by themselves.
If you or someone close to you needs assistance, please do not hesitate to seek help.
Dalam proses pemuliharaan, masa memainkan peranan penting bagi seseorang untuk mengatasi luka dan belajar untuk terus maju.
